How Self-Talk Can Change Your Life: All About Affirmations 

by | Aug 14, 2023 | Personal Development

If you fall victim to negative self-talk and are looking for ways to meet the goals in your life, we have your solution: affirmations! Affirmations are short, active statements that build self-confidence and help knock out negative thoughts. Saying them out loud and reading them often can help you reach and exceed your goals. Affirmations are a mind tool often recommended by professionals to boost your morale and visualize your success.  

On the outside, affirmations look like personal pep talks, or just talking to yourself like you would a friend, but there’s a definite art to well-crafted affirmations. Whether you’ve been using them for a year, or are brand new to the practice, here’s everything you need to know about creating your perfect affirmation. 

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The Purpose of Affirmations 

According to WebMD, “The purpose of positive affirmations is to help you overcome negative thoughts that make you doubt yourself.” Too often we let negative thoughts and doubts keep us from doing the things we desire. Having these types of thoughts often leads to similarly negative actions, which ultimately determines our destiny.  

For instance, let’s say your goal is to run a marathon. You’re excited and take off on your very first run, full of hope and motivation. But after just 10 minutes of running, you’re out of breath, shaky, and feeling like a failure. You might think, “there’s no way I can run a marathon if I’m already this tired after just a mile! I can’t possibly keep going. I’m not meant to be a runner.” 

Does this sound familiar? We’ve all fallen into this stream of thinking at times. Negative thoughts and self-talk lead to quitting and feeling bad. The ticket out of pity party station? Affirmations! Here are a few affirmations you could say the moment you start thinking poorly of yourself. 

“I can run a marathon. I have the energy to finish this run. Time is on my side, and I have the time to work through this setback. Im capable of working hard and making changes in my life.

See the difference? Where negative thoughts pull you down, positive affirmations build you up. Running a marathon doesn’t happen in a day: It takes many, many goals to reach it. Affirmations will help you see the end goal and give you the confidence you’re lacking to keep moving forward.  

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How to Write Self-talk Affirmations 

Writing affirmations can take some practice, especially if you’ve never done it before. Your first time might feel awkward as you talk to yourself, but it gets better with time and practice. Here are a few things to consider before you get going. 

  • Have a clear goal for your affirmations. Whether it’s increasing work performance, running a marathon, or raising self-esteem, have clear intentions. 
  • Understand your negative self-talk and some of the things you tell yourself when you’re feeling down. 
  • Give yourself the time to concentrate on your affirmations, especially the first time. It doesn’t always come easy, so have uninterrupted time to think through the process. 
  • Write yourself a note when you’re feeling negative. Do the same when you’re feeling positive. Keep those two notes as reminders of what each mindset feels like, so you can recognize the difference. 

Now that you’re in a comfortable place, here’s an easy formula for the most powerful affirmations. 

I + (helping verb like can, have, am) + (desired action or feeling) 

This formula is a good jumping off point, but not the only way to write great statements. Do what works best for you! 

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Examples of Affirmations 

Affirmations look different for everyone. After a while, they will evolve to fit you and your lifestyle. Getting started is often the hardest part. Here are a few examples using the above formula to help get your gears turning. 

  • I can run a marathon (insert your own activity or goal). 
  • I am inspired. 
  • I am balanced.  
  • I am grateful.  
  • I am enough. 
  • I have the courage to ask for help. 
  • I am worthy of love. 
  • I can do hard things. 
  • I am independent. 
  • I am persistent. 
  • I am capable. 
  • I have the resources I need to reach my goals. 

Self-talk Matters

Goals aside, affirmations are a great way to feel warm and happy inside. In speaking to ourselves kindly just a few times a day, we can change our whole internal dialogue and begin a new journey to self-talk, self-love, and personal understanding. If your goal is to love yourself a little more, affirmations are the way to go. 

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